Small Talk vs Depression

This picture is how it feels sometimes when you have depression and have to deal with small talk day after day.

Some people with depression have to deal with their affliction every day of their lives, and people without depression often downplay their experiences out of naivety. Not only is it downright annoying, it’s borderline Ableist. 

I’m not saying that differently abled folks should declare open war on small talk. What I am saying is that able bodied and neurotypical people should take care with how they talk to their loved ones with depression or other neuro divergent “disorders”.
This is how a typical exchange of small goes with me sometimes:

Them: “How was your day?” 

Me: “My day was a downer, how was yours?”

Them: “Why was it a downer?? You should be happy that you have so much going for you! I wish I was 26 again! Other people have things so much worse than you do! Seize the day! Carpe Diem!!!!!”

Me: “Deprssion doesn’t need a rhyme or reason, it just happens.”

*Proceeds to walk away from the conversation.*

This is why many people just lie and say their day was, “Good, how was yours?” 

I’m just tired of answering the question either way because of the probing and dismissing that happens aftewards. I’m aware that this is a first world problem as far as social issues go, but I’m not being unreasonable in asking people to be more mindful with how they talk to their neuro divergent friends and family.


DIY Microphone Shield/Gobo – 2 Minutes (with Video!)

Now even those of us not mechanically inclined can build a sound isolation screen on our own.

Acoustics First BLOG

Stuff you need: Glue, Binder and Foam Stuff you need: Glue, Binder and Foam

Acoustics First understands that the Do-it-Yourself spirit in the audio world is alive and well, and here is another one of our contributions to that community.

The personal mic shield… all you need is…

  • Foam safe Glue
  • a One inch thick, three ring binder
  • two 1 foot x 1 foot pieces of foam
  • 2 Minutes

Got everything together?
Do you have 2 minutes?
Let’s do this!
Watch the video…

Or follow the steps…

Open the Binder Open the Binder

Open the binder and bend the bottom tab flat.

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Spray the Binder and the back of the foam with glue.

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Wait for a few seconds for the glue to get tacky, then carefully stick the foam to the binder – be sure to apply pressure to allow for a strong bond.

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Give the glue some time to dry.

After the glue sets, slide the rings of the binder over a…

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Walking Dead 6.10 Review: “The Next World”

Reblogging to share on my social media pages.

Kevin Card

*Spoiler warning courtesy of Buzz Lightyear*


Hello again everyone, Kevin here bringing you the analysis on this week’s episode of The Walking Dead. I just wanted to let people know that the reason I always open up with a “filler” paragraph is so when I post these reviews to Facebook the text doesn’t bleed over and reveal any spoilers for those who didn’t want to see them. I like to consider it an extra insurance policy to prevent people from getting upset over spoilers.

Speaking of filler, I often hear comic book Gatekeeping fans get upset at the show every season due how slowly the story drags on. These people need to remember that these are two different mediums, and television shows need to reach syndication (100 or more episodes). It’s especially worth mentioning that lately The Walking Dead has returned to referencing the source material at a rate that…

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Game of Thrones 5.3 and 5.4 Review

*Spoiler warning: warnings of spoilers that are now two weeks old. Game of Thrones latest episode will be on in less than an hour, and I did a good job in keeping up with those deadlines…*

Self criticizing sarcasm aside, these latest episodes have had amazing writing with incredibly dissapointing plot points for the protagonists of story. GRRM is skilled at creating great characters and then making them falter in incredibly dissapointing ways (other than just killing them off, that is).

As always, I see no point in plot sumarries given that these episodes have been out a while. I may start plot summaries again once I find the time to write weekly reviews rather than bi-weekly reviews though. Anyways, here’s what I enjoyed and didn’t enjoy.

What I enjoyed: It was very nice to see the two things Ramsay fears; men more powerful than him and the prospect of marriage to end his little play world. It was also nice to see Tyrion returning to his oldself while he spoke to that prostitute treating her like an actual human being rather than a tissue. I’m fond of seeing Jaime Lannister trying to do right by his children and rescue his daughter from the serious danger she’s in. Lastly, I think Staniss is a better character now than he was in all of the previous seasons with how he’s trying to liberate the north.

What I didn’t like: Seeing Sansa being married to Ramsay would give me menstrual cramps if I were a woman. Like seriously, it’s stressing me out to think of how bad things have been for Sansa and how much worse they could be being married to the biggest sociopath in all of Westeros. I believe Ramsay to be the literary incarnation of George RR Martin’s hatred of his fans demands for more happy endings. I also hate how fucking evil Cersei has become since I was hoping that the High Sparrow subplot would be used to redeem Cersei, instead she just used the Faith Militant to further her goals for power. I don’t think Cersei’s daughter should be hurt, but I wouldn’t mind seeing the Dornish overthrow her rule. Lastly, I’m unsure if Ser Barristen is actually dead, but I won’t hold my breath given how many characters die in this show.

I’m often told people have a love/hate relationship with Game of Thrones, and I can see why. GOT is a great show, but not for those who love happy endings. I like happy endings, but I also like something different. Game of Thrones is one of those different shows that I will keep watching, always.

Here’s hoping Theon regains his something of his sannity, but I think he’s also better off being disconnected from reality the way he has been lately as well. Time (and book spoilers) shall tell.


Album Review: “Totality” by Lotus Effect

Re-blogging simply because I goofed on the scheduling of this blog the first time. Also, my Walking Dead review will be out later tonight.

Kevin Card

Local Texas band Lotus Effect reached out to me on Twitter a few months ago, and I finally found the time to check out the album they sent to me to review on my blog. Since it’s taken me a while to start this review I have decided to do a song by song break down like one of my old school blog reviews. What’s written below is my live reaction to hearing each song for the first time.


1. “God Particle”- An interesting intro that grabs your attention with thought evoking lyrics about God and scripture. This song uses spoken words for the vocals, starts off mellow with guitars on reverb and then stops into a synth build up, then climaxes into a progressive classical piece reminiscent of an old church chorale from the Baroque era (just dark, not abstract). This piece strikes as a daring way to…

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So what does it mean to “die with dignity”?

An insightful and touching piece, also one that raises a good question. Personally, I sympathize with people like Maynard rather than just criticize their decision. Also, in my mind to “die with dignity” is to accept death without fear after you feel you have lived the way you wanted to live your life.

Sarahbeth Caplin

I have been thinking a lot about Brittany Maynard. She’s been on my mind ever since I heard her tragic story, because it was released to the media just after my father died of cancer. Other than Robin Williams, I’ve never felt grief this big for someone I didn’t know personally.

I think it’s because I have an idea of where her family is emotionally right now (but only an idea). My pain is still fresh and raw, and that’s without having my grief under a national spotlight.

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A touching blog about practice and the love of a mother. Always happy to see the next generation carrying on the musical flame!

A Holistic Journey

Two years and 11 months Two years and 11 months

According to Malcolm Gladwell, behind the genius of high-achievers that leaves us spellbound you really have just 10,000 hours of practice.

Let’s see what this might look like for you as a drummer, Tennyson:

You’ve put in at least 500 hours thus far.

1 hour of practice a day, 35 free days in a year –>
330 hours
the next 5 years –>
1650 hours plus the 500 = 2150 hours by the age of 12

The next 12 years, double the daily hour –>
660 hours every year, a total of 7920 hours
plus the ones from the first 12 years = 10,070 hours by the age of 24

Unless an earthquake brings this house down or you find yourself with a single parent, you will continue to have every opportunity to play. And even in the tightest straits we will sell the furniture…

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