This picture is how it feels sometimes when you have depression and have to deal with small talk day after day.
Some people with depression have to deal with their affliction every day of their lives, and people without depression often downplay their experiences out of naivety. Not only is it downright annoying, it’s borderline Ableist.
I’m not saying that differently abled folks should declare open war on small talk. What I am saying is that able bodied and neurotypical people should take care with how they talk to their loved ones with depression or other neuro divergent “disorders”.
This is how a typical exchange of small goes with me sometimes:
Them: “How was your day?”
Me: “My day was a downer, how was yours?”
Them: “Why was it a downer?? You should be happy that you have so much going for you! I wish I was 26 again! Other people have things so much worse than you do! Seize the day! Carpe Diem!!!!!”
Me: “Deprssion doesn’t need a rhyme or reason, it just happens.”
*Proceeds to walk away from the conversation.*
This is why many people just lie and say their day was, “Good, how was yours?”
I’m just tired of answering the question either way because of the probing and dismissing that happens aftewards. I’m aware that this is a first world problem as far as social issues go, but I’m not being unreasonable in asking people to be more mindful with how they talk to their neuro divergent friends and family.
on days we are but fractions. – http://wp.me/p4SMTM-2Hr I love the drawing textures and what I perceive to be the deeper meaning of not letting just our actions define us.
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*Spoiler warning: warnings of spoilers that are now two weeks old. Game of Thrones latest episode will be on in less than an hour, and I did a good job in keeping up with those deadlines…*
Self criticizing sarcasm aside, these latest episodes have had amazing writing with incredibly dissapointing plot points for the protagonists of story. GRRM is skilled at creating great characters and then making them falter in incredibly dissapointing ways (other than just killing them off, that is).
As always, I see no point in plot sumarries given that these episodes have been out a while. I may start plot summaries again once I find the time to write weekly reviews rather than bi-weekly reviews though. Anyways, here’s what I enjoyed and didn’t enjoy.
What I enjoyed: It was very nice to see the two things Ramsay fears; men more powerful than him and the prospect of marriage to end his little play world. It was also nice to see Tyrion returning to his oldself while he spoke to that prostitute treating her like an actual human being rather than a tissue. I’m fond of seeing Jaime Lannister trying to do right by his children and rescue his daughter from the serious danger she’s in. Lastly, I think Staniss is a better character now than he was in all of the previous seasons with how he’s trying to liberate the north.
What I didn’t like: Seeing Sansa being married to Ramsay would give me menstrual cramps if I were a woman. Like seriously, it’s stressing me out to think of how bad things have been for Sansa and how much worse they could be being married to the biggest sociopath in all of Westeros. I believe Ramsay to be the literary incarnation of George RR Martin’s hatred of his fans demands for more happy endings. I also hate how fucking evil Cersei has become since I was hoping that the High Sparrow subplot would be used to redeem Cersei, instead she just used the Faith Militant to further her goals for power. I don’t think Cersei’s daughter should be hurt, but I wouldn’t mind seeing the Dornish overthrow her rule. Lastly, I’m unsure if Ser Barristen is actually dead, but I won’t hold my breath given how many characters die in this show.
I’m often told people have a love/hate relationship with Game of Thrones, and I can see why. GOT is a great show, but not for those who love happy endings. I like happy endings, but I also like something different. Game of Thrones is one of those different shows that I will keep watching, always.
Here’s hoping Theon regains his something of his sannity, but I think he’s also better off being disconnected from reality the way he has been lately as well. Time (and book spoilers) shall tell.
Being that I once unsuccessfully tried to become a power blogger I feel like this post resonates with my personality, especially since I’ve been a self proclaimed procrastinator since middle school.