This picture is how it feels sometimes when you have depression and have to deal with small talk day after day.
Some people with depression have to deal with their affliction every day of their lives, and people without depression often downplay their experiences out of naivety. Not only is it downright annoying, it’s borderline Ableist.
I’m not saying that differently abled folks should declare open war on small talk. What I am saying is that able bodied and neurotypical people should take care with how they talk to their loved ones with depression or other neuro divergent “disorders”.
This is how a typical exchange of small goes with me sometimes:
Them: “How was your day?”
Me: “My day was a downer, how was yours?”
Them: “Why was it a downer?? You should be happy that you have so much going for you! I wish I was 26 again! Other people have things so much worse than you do! Seize the day! Carpe Diem!!!!!”
Me: “Deprssion doesn’t need a rhyme or reason, it just happens.”
*Proceeds to walk away from the conversation.*
This is why many people just lie and say their day was, “Good, how was yours?”
I’m just tired of answering the question either way because of the probing and dismissing that happens aftewards. I’m aware that this is a first world problem as far as social issues go, but I’m not being unreasonable in asking people to be more mindful with how they talk to their neuro divergent friends and family.